I wonder why we feel selfish for spending time on ourselves. It seems to be a natural thought process for people who think of themselves. I don’t see it this way as I feel that you are a foundation, if you think about a house the foundations keep the house up. You’re the foundation of the family and if you don’t look after your foundations, your family can crumble. In some ways you are being selfish by not looking after yourself because you become tired,with withdrawn, irritable, and many other emotions and feelings.
start today with a promise to yourself and your family by starting to take care of yourself. You can start in small ways. Possibly start by meeting a friend for a cup of tea. Or sit by yourself for 10 minutes with your eyes closed meditating. Whatever you decide to do and whatever works for you. But start by treating yourself kindly.